Category: General

  • We Each Need to Have a Desert

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    As we cycle through life with its transitions, the chaos that surrounds us in today’s world can become overwhelming. In order to mitigate the intense emotional reaction to the hurricane of fast-moving continuous news cycles, political divisiveness, and personal life challenges (money, job, family, lack of time, health), we need to find a resting place.…

  • Living Alone During the Holiday Season

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    As the decades have passed and life transitions have occurred, the late 70’s have proven to be a time of reflection and, in many ways, the attainment of clarity about the effects brought about  by life’s adventures. Living alone for most of us is a series of peaks and valleys. The Christmas season is a…

  • Memories that Create Auras

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    As I age, some memories throughout my life create a feeling within me that elevates my spirit. These memories not only permit me to recall the events that created the memory, but also the context of the events. Where was I? What was I experiencing for which the events registered in a different way than…

  • Scribbling about the Thread of our Lives

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    The trees outside my window are an amazing spectacle of color, ranging from dark green to burnt orange, gold, red and amber. Another season is upon us as we approach the excitement of the holidays. As we age, we look forward to another chapter in the parade of seasons. What will it bring? In my…

  • Retirement…Thinking about my strategy

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    When I retired, I rrealized that my life had changed dramatically from the work-a-day world that I had experienced for the years since I left the cockpit and joined the world of high reliability electronics for the aerospace industry. Retirement was a life transition with which I had no experience. I was fortunate because I…

  • Navigating Risk in Life Transitions

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    Risk is inherent in almost every life transition. Our fears and self-doubt contribute to the chaos that is roiling within us as we enter a new branch of our life pathway. I experienced the specters of doubt as I entered college. Was I smart enough? Disciplined enough? Persistent enough? When I entered pilot training, was…

  • Human Connection Pathways- The Black and White

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    This may be the most difficult time in history to connect with other humans. The level of divisiveness within America is at a peak. Of course, we can point to social media as a major contributor to human disconnection. Opposing political, spiritual and societal viewpoints contribute significantly to our disconnection. The 24/7 news cycle, in…

  • Communication Clarity: Individual to Individual

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    When two or more people communicate, often the communication is not clearly stated or received because the sender and the receiver are processing the communication from their own experiences and perceptions. In order to create clarity during communications, it may be helpful for the receiver to restate the communication in order to ensure that it…

  • Looking through the eyes of others

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    Each individual possesses a distinctive array of experiences that shape their perceptions (EP) regarding various aspects of life, including culture, politics, and spirituality, as well as their interactions with others. These perceptions play a crucial role in establishing our expectations (E), which in turn influence our outlook on potential events, reactions, and outcomes. As we…